Have you ever wondered if your relationship is working out fine? If you are enough for each other? If you are really happy? Or if you have made the right decision by choosing him or her? The alarm raises at the very moment when such questions arise. Chances are something is off track that’s leading you to ponder over this. It’s okay to question your decisions. 

At times, you might experience things getting worse frequently. There are long term effects of petty arguments. You see there might be love but no respect and trust at times. Such a relationship might make you feel like it is some liability. Let’s take a ride down the lane of symptom of such toxic relationship. Here are some points that will help you gain clarity.

1. You are Afraid of the Reaction of your partner

Trust builds when you can count on each other. This accountability comes with openness and past experiences. But you might experience one of you getting short-tempered frequently. You both fight so frequently that you are afraid of sharing your thoughts and expectations. You feel like there is an active explosive of harsh emotions beneath the tongue of your partner that will explode any time. Thus you get afraid of the reactions he/she gives every now and then. Then comes the next phase, where you suppress your expressions to avoid arguments. That’s when toxicity has invaded your bond.

2. You Behave Against your will

Compromises are inevitable when you have to deal with people and manage your bonds. But to what extent is the question! There is a tolerance limit for such expectations and behavior. Many a times, you start with prioritizing others to the extent that you behave against your own will. You stop chasing things you have wanted because you wish to fit by their side. Don’t forget to live on your terms and make a balance between the needs and expectations of both of you.

Here’s the sweet clip from iconic movie, ‘Titanic’ where Rose acts against her will and continues her toxic relationship with her control freak fiance. This is where, Jack simply rules as somebody who understands what’s really beneath her words.

3. You Hide things from each other

After spending a significant amount of time, you understand and gauge the reactions of your partner. Some people get over-possessive which is not as cool as it’s shown in many of the Bollywood movies. So, to avoid possible resentments and do what you wish at the same time, you start hiding things from each other. This is a signal that you are stepping into that toxic red zone.

Here is how things get simple, a glimpse from The Silver Silver Linings Playbook where Bradley Cooper pours his heart and finally stops hiding his feelings, his insecurities.

4. You Distance your people to avoid Complexities with your partner

When your partner wants you to stay with him/her always, you will be expected to distance yourself from your friends or family. This is the worst and most unreasonable to expect from anyone, no matter how close you both are. Don’t just distance yourself from your happiness and your people because your partner can’t deal with insecurities. Instead, try to work out this issue in a healthier way. You confront these insecurities and try building trust over time with your people by your side.

5. There are Frequent Bitter Talks and Complaints

When you fight so much that your days are filled with bitter talks and complaints, it’s time to awaken! These things affect your mental health directly. Sometimes, you might think it’s love, but you realize down the line that it was nothing more than a habit. You can’t drag each new day expecting things will change by time. Bitter talks lower your confidence. You deserve better than constant rants if you too believe so.

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