As a boy, we may mess around in life and I believe its important to do that as well. However, when it comes to being a Father, you definitely can not go wrong because your children follow your footsteps and trust me you would not want to see that wrong when you look back. Every child looks at their father like he is SUPER DAD and you cannot mess it up.
Being a Father is another opportunity for a man to design a life for someone he loves immensely. It is not about re-creating your life but letting a new life be created in a manner it becomes beautiful and happy.
Children need Nurture and Structure both so while the Mom of the house is taking care of the Nurture bit, here is how you can build the Structure piece for your child.
BE PRESENT
We all need someone by our side at every phase of life to be if we were a child or a teenager or a grown-up man. We all need that special someone who has always got our back.
You need to be there with your children at all walks of life especially at their major milestones especially: a super dad is always there.
- Visiting their Paediatrician
- Parents Teachers Meetings
- Important Matches or Events
- School functions
- On Vacation
PUT THEIR INTEREST FIRST
There are a lot of changes that a man should make in his life when he becomes a father. Remember, this is a time of growing up from being a boy and enter into the phase of life where every action of yours is being watched by your children. Few things you should STOP doing at home immediately when you become a father are
- Stop Smoking at home
- Stop Drinking at home
- Control your Anger
- Use the appropriate language at home
- Make changes in your lifestyle
MAKE TIME FOR THEM
A very famous saying is – Don’t be so busy making a living that you don’t have time to make a life. Materialistic things will vanish, its only Love, Relationships and people who will stay with you in life. Always make time for your children to. Be their super dad and:
- Play with them
- Read bedtime stories to them
- Go out and have a US time
- Talk to them about their likes and dislikes
- Create a personal code for you both
TEACH THEM
The first teacher for every child is his family. It has a life-long impact on his memory and upbringing. He will always remember the first few years of his life when he was not interacting with anyone from outside the world other than his parents and family. So, always ensure he gets to learn the best. Few things to teach your child are
- Treat everyone with respect and love
- Etiquette and the right behavior
- Habits for a healthy and happy living
- Make a relationship with fellow people
- Man Stuff
COMMUNICATE WITH THEM
Communication is a two-way street and is the most effective tool to build a strong and long-lasting relationship. In a Father-Child relationship as well, you both need to talk and listen. It’s never a one-way thing. Few things to talk to your child about as their super dad are
- His likes and dislikes
- The favorite pastime he prefers, friends and sports
- His POV on people and things happening around him
- How to approach a problem statement and solve them
- Things you did in your life and what did you learn from them
DO THINGS TOGETHER
Spending time and doing things together always leads to a great bond between people. A few things you can do together are
- A Hobby class (Painting, Dance, Music, Swimming, etc.)
- A fitness class
- A new language
- DIY things at home
- Visit Fun Parks / Activity Centers
RESPECT HIS MOTHER
In our Indian culture, women are always respected as SHAKTI which means the GODESS of POWER and is also a symbol of completeness for a man. Hence, it becomes extremely important for your child to know and understand how to
- Respect your wife
- Give her the respect as the mom of your child
- Respect her individuality
- Respecting her choices and lifestyle
- Respect her for all the efforts she is making to make your home and life wonderful
BE DISCIPLINARY
While it is important to love your child, it is also equally important to ensure they follow discipline in one’s life. It makes a man more credible and trustworthy. Following a discipline makes a child develop
- A habit of consistency
- Stay focussed
- Exercise Self-Control
- Be more process-oriented in your execution
- Build confidence and credibility in self
TAKE TIME OUT FOR YOURSELF
A focussed mind is a healthy mind which is why you should always take time out some for yourself every day. It helps you in many ways especially
- Reflect upon where is your life going
- Stay confidence and focussed
- Reduces anxiety, fatigue and avoid depression
- Keeps you in control of your life
- Manage your relationships well
We all are human beings at the end of the day. Few mistakes are allowed but as long as we are willing to rectify them and stay true to loving our family and relationships, we are doing great. So, Love yourself and love your children.