You must have come across certain relationships at times when you wanted it to really work. You are wholeheartedly involved at such times. No matter how ugly things get once in a while or how great your chemistry is, you wish to have a really good time together. Your soul calls out and you want to give out efforts and make it work. Not that you want to change the kind of person you are, but you wish to improve. No one is perfect. You too realize certain aspects of yours can prove to be pain points for your partner. These suggestive rules are for you if you wish to improve upon that one lovely existing or future relationship you are looking forward to.
1. Discussing Insecurities
Speak out your insecurities before they silence your love.The first step towards building trust is to speak your heart out. The relation seems authentic when lips part for more than showering love, for speaking up the truth and blurting out all the insecurities. There might be some doubts budding in your heart. It might be baseless or based on gut feeling. It can also be the case where you don’t know the complete story. You won’t know where exactly things are going wrong if you don’t share your fear. So you better give your relationship a fair chance at such times.
2. Accepting weaknesses of each other
Respect isn’t a favor it’s a choice. Respect that your partner isn’t afraid of sharing about his weaknesses. It’s challenging to be who you are. It takes time to attain that trust. Try not constantly fishing for perfection. Bollywood has set many unrealistic expectations among couples. Try to be realistic and practical. Share your weakness as well. At the same time try to improve upon them. Your weaknesses cannot be a basket of excuses. But your weaknesses can help you remove the mask you often wear in front of people. That’s when you establish a comfortable bond that feels truly yours.
3. Efforts strengthen your Relationship
You can’t expect your partner to be somebody as responsible for you as your parent. You need to take real efforts if you are really into that relationship. It doesn’t mean you can be fake and put on a show of efforts. But your partner should not feel like you are being a burden to them at certain point. Take responsibilities. Even expressing your love is an effort. Not everyone is good at expressing. Words are good, still actions are better to reflect your love. This can include staying by the side of your partner in bad times. When one person is emotionally broken, try to strengthen the moment with your constant support.
4. Spend time together regularly
Moments rule even after they have passed. Memories can be created only when you spend time together. It strengthens the connection. If someone keeps giving illogical excuses every time you wish to meet, you better respect their choice and walk away after receiving enough of excuses. Wise people walk away at such times because you can’t get entangled into one sided affection. You don’t deserve to go through that unbalanced love and frustration. Let the moments take over and bloom where you both matter for each other.
5. Don’t lose your individuality
Individuality is as precious as all the dreams you have protected since you were a child. At times, I have seen people losing themselves to fit into the framework given by their partner. I believe such actions are acceptable to only a certain limit. Adjustment for a long time can bring you suffocation and kill happiness. Doesn’t it feel great when you can protect your dreams and live life on your terms? You must give your partner as well some breathing space. It’s time to address the toxicity luring in your relationship when you keep acting against your will. How do you expect freedom in your relationship to exist when it’s all cluttered with compromises and expectations this whole time? So Cheers! Here is a toast to being yourself.
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